Date: 2018-04-13 16:30
I go on to master motioning the guitar, the accordion and mouth-organ, before having an entire 'conversation' about horses.
I’m not saying you should rattle off these questions when you’re on a date, but just having them in the back of your head will remind you how little you know about this girl. You’ll start to feel more interested and curious about her, and conversation will be able to flow more naturally.
Standing with 68 other nervous women in a room above a central London pub, I'm about to make what may be my most bizarre attempt to witness people trying to find love.
Lucy asks us to walk round the room and make eye contact with each other, before shaking everyone's hand - the rule being that you cannot let go of one man's grasp until you have grabbed someone else's.
We choke during unfamiliar social situations because we’re stuck in our heads. We’re too busy coming up with something “interesting” to say rather than being present in the moment. Stop worrying so much about sounding stupid and just listen.
Hopefully, your attempt at a joke won 8767 t result in more silence. Now that would feel awkward. If you and your date have a great sense of humor, why not use that as a way to break the silence.
So, what changed? Nothing except your perception of the silence. Temporary silence is a normal part of conversational rhythm. It’s only when you believe that it’s a huge issue that it becomes a huge issue. Start seeing it as an opportunity to reflect, gather your thoughts, and continue where you left off.
“Some guy once invited me to a group hang and when I got there he told me that everyone else bailed. Turns out he never invited anyone, it was just a ploy to get me to go out with him.”
'We often use small talk, alcohol and other distractions to avoid seeing or showing ourselves properly,' explains founder Adam Taffler, who has good reason to boast of his nights' success rates: he met his own girlfriend at one.
Billed as 'speed dating without the talking', Shhh Dating nights launched in London earlier this year and (ironically) word of mouth has seen them spread so fast across the capital that organisers are looking to expand them across the UK.