Date: 2018-03-10 07:43
Yup. When I was doing online dating, I sent out just as many messages as I received (or thereabouts). I replied to significantly more people than I got replies from. I might have gotten maybe 6 reply out of about 75, which is the statistic I see thrown around sometimes for how many replies guys receive.
This is an easy, non-threatening way to show that you are interested in him. If he responds positively, by smiling, nodding or saying “yes” he may be feeling some attraction to you. At that point, make sure he has your contact information!
I absolutely agree with you about the difference between behavior and emotional reactions. I don t think it s possible to just take hurtful words and have them not affect one at all, or at last it doesn t seem possible for most people.
I would suggest that you act like a friend with him and when it feels right, ask him to go to an event you both would enjoy a game, a happening in the park, etc. Give him what i call a Diamond Self nickname, like 8775 Captain Ken, 8776 that relates to his hobbies and interests. If he enjoys the nickname he will feel closer to you. See how things unfold. Also, read Love in 95 Days it will help you.
Wishing you love,
I know that for me bullying has made me very insecure about myself. It s also given me an understanding of how people s insecurities can work and what can be done to improve things.
And yes, I can absolutely understand that lack of computation. For me I have learned SO much about the thought processes about the people who post here, many of whom at first I could not fathom. I think listening to others is a big part of it. I might not always agree with the conclusions people draw, but the reasoning for those conclusions offers a great insight into how they look at and approach life. I m still learning though 🙂.
I was fully prepared to regale the community with how it didn t bother me one iota, and that I approached our first encounter with great confidence. I was ready to revel (modestly) in the fact that not only was our chemistry palpable from the jump, but much to my surprise, I was effortlessly able to access the charming, engaging person I know I am and always wish to be.
I think it can also be useful as a tool to get yourself doing things that you wouldn t otherwise do. If you pretend you re confident, and that gets you talking to people, doing public speaking, dancing in public or whatever else lack of confidence has kept you from doing, that can be valuable in itself. Even if the confidence was fake, the things you do while pretending are real.
It s not? I mean the Doctor hasn t pointed out many times that sexism hurts men too. Especially those who don t fit the stereotype.
That hits the nail on the head, I think. I m just not able to handle my insecurities. A common thread I notice in these comments is that a few of us really don t think too much of ourselves, myself included. It s hard to build anything when you can t handle your insecurities.